Are you the type of person who is always thinking? Is it impossible to stay focused on something without voices chattering inside your head? You are in meeting with your colleagues and suddenly you think , “Do I need to buy a cucumber for dinner?”. There’s no link to the business you are about to negotiate and a cucumber, but your “Monkey-mind” doesn’t care or stop. It’s time to say “No! You will stay calm because you are under my control”
Take a look inside your brain
There are many people in your head. Take time to get to know them. Let me introduce you to the closest family members you never knew you had. At your right, you can see the Judge. He has a strong sense of justice. After each thing you do, he will check your book of beliefs and personal laws and tell you what is good, bad, wrong, true, normal or not. Sitting close to him is your Ego. The ego is acting like a snake that is really hungry. What is the ego hungry for? Status, rewards and expectations. Look behind the sofa and there is a shy doe. Her main activity is a strong memory. When you try to do something new, she will remind you of all the reasons you must not do it. This doe is full of fear and afraid of everything. “Oh no stop! Johnny is going to break everything!” Finally, there’s your monkey-mind that jumps between the past and the future. I tried to catch him, without success.
Like 5 fingers of your hand
The Judge, Ego-Snake, Afraid-Doe, Monkey-Jumper and you. Yes, and you because you are not your mind. You need to play your role. You are the spectator at the Cinema. You are in front of a really messy movie. The judge says “It’s not good for you to eat that pop-corn”. The ego replies “You deserve a better meal”. The doe says, “It will be hard to loss all those calories”. The Monkey says, “Should I subscribe to the gym again?”. You can’t fight them because they are members of your family. Instead, I suggest you to listen them and treat each voice as an adviser but not necessarily the truth. Each member of your family is playing their role. None of them have the ability to see the whole picture like you do. You are the observer of this show.
Your new career
As you have probably already guessed, this family need a good psychologist. Each member is different and needs to be treated specially. If you listen carefully to the judge you will understand your book of law and rules. This book probably needs an update because it was created during your childhood. Please give him this tip for me “There is no fact, only point of view”. The Ego-Snake lives in an artificial paradise where he remembers all things you have already achieved in your life. (Mostly about how you define yourself). He is a real competitor. He wants to defend all his titles (Status, beliefs) and win another. His most important problem comes from his attachment to trophies. When he thinks someone wants to attack his titles, he reacts brutally. You can tell the ego-snake “All those trophies are fake. They have no value because they don’t define who you really are. People really only value their own trophies. Nobody wants to take your. Don’t take things personally”.
Bananas and whispering
The shy doe will be probably be stuck in the waiting room in front of your cabinet. Give her a hug, Take her aside and whisper “Don’t worry. The future is not the past. You can’t predict what will happens but if you think something wrong will happen, obviously you will create this reality”. Finally, you can attract your monkey-mind with delicious bananas on the table. When the present is attractive, he doesn’t want to jump everywhere. Similarly, if you choose the life you want, you won’t need to go in an imaginary fairytale.
Do your best in each situation. Give your best, not less (Regrets) or not more (You will lose too much energy). Your best is enough. You will avoid lot of self-depreciation and problems. Take care of you and your new family. Hari Om!
Sometimes, you think it’s hard to change your bad habits. You are feeling strained by your work, and you just want order pizza when you go back home, because you feel too lazy or tired to cook healthy food. But the fact is, these bad habits will create more tiredness. Now it’s time to change thanks to the following five steps.
You are what you eat
Everything you eat spreads in your body, in the form of nutrients. It rejuvenates your body, your cells and the digestive and immune system. All aspects of your life could be impacted by bad healthy habits if you don’t take care about what you’re eating. Most diseases begin with a lack of essential nutrients. Not only physically, but your mental health could also be affected through depression, deficit attention, exhaustion. If you want to succeed in all different fields of your life, you need energy. The best way to increase your energy level is to understand the consequences of your actions. It gives you the power to change your habits for the better.
Achieve a better comprehension of yourself
In our modern world, we don’t take time to enjoy meals. Each part of our food is chewed, digested and ejected without consciousness. When you see an advertisement about the latest delicious manufactured pizza available, you like the idea of the taste of this pizza, but when you’re eating the pizza, do you really enjoy the taste? We need to be careful about ideas created artificially by the mind and the realm of the experience. By the same way of consequences, pay attention to digestive consequences after meals. After few days of awareness, you will link what you have eaten with your stomach problems. After that, you could remove infectious food from your eating lifestyle.
Long-term vision Vs short-term vision
What is the most important for you: achieve your success goal or enjoy a short-term pleasure? Does make sense to enjoy a burger for lunch and feel sleepiness at your work? Even, if you feel no consequences of your bad habits in your daily life, the effect will be on the long-term frame. The temporary pleasure no longer justifies the damage done. You are the responsible of the future good achievement of your projects. It includes taking your responsibility for the negative effects of your habits and see the big picture instead of the self-instant gratification.
What’s your excuses?
There will be always excuses for the person who doesn’t wanna change. Don’t tell me you don’t have enough time. I’m sure that it will takes you less time to cut and cook carrots that order junk-food. Don’t say you don’t have the knowledge to cook, if you read me you know perfectly how to use this powerful source of knowledge called internet. Don’t complain about the cost of healthy food when your MacDonald’s bills are the double or triple cost of vegetables. If you think you will lost the taste of the food and feeling the taste of radish (I’ve already told you, I hate radish?) in your mouth for the rest of your life, it’s perfectly wrong. I bet you there is many healthy recipes and ingredients that could give you a better taste than the food you eat currently.
Obviously, if you don’t do search other alternatives, it will not works.
Enjoy the process
Mankind is really bad about self-discipline, especially when they don’t they like to do those things. They can stand new habits for long time, but at the end it will fail because they don’t take pleasure. The purpose of life is not to impose restrictions in order to achieve goals. Instead, you must think “How can do two shots with the same stone? How can be healthier and enjoy more pleasurable food?”. Sometimes all you have to do is ask and you’ll find the answer. Remember that most of the time expectations and realities that you created in your mind, are only effective in your mind, not in the real world.